We all make them. We are also super good at pointing out other's mistakes; however, how often do we point out our own mistakes? Honestly, not often, and especially not often enough in front of our children. We have set such high expectations for our children that sometimes it is just pretty darn hard to live up to them. Clearly a 6 year old isn't always going to act like a 35 year old we expect them to.

Our children need to learn that we make mistakes too. When your child comes home from school with an "I got busted" note - you need to address that. However you should also share a time that you got "busted" too. These are such precious learning moments. Here is where we can share the line, "You aren't a bad person. You just made a bad choice."

Some of our children struggle with wanting to be perfect. How do you know if this is your child? Sometimes it is obvious externally. For example, you can see it in their writing as some constantly erase and correct their letter formation (usually girls). Others are more internal when trying to be perfect. Some parents will say that they never have to punish one of their children for doing something wrong - the child does it on their own. An example might be that they come up with their own toy to lose, or you can see it in their face and their demeanor that they are truly struggling with making a bad choice internally. These children definitely need examples of imperfection in their world.

If you make a mistake during the day - like you go to the wrong place for a meeting, forget completely about an appointment, or just make a bad choice sometime during the day - highlight this with your child. When you pick them up from school, instead of asking 20 questions like we normally do, start with "Guess what I did today…" And then launch into your debacle of the day. You will get laughter, real laughter and real compassion.

Highlighting your own mistakes will also help you gauge how your children see you handling their mistakes. Their reactions and or questions might closely mirror your reactions. This might be good to see or challenging. Either way, you should know.
It can be fun to ask kids the following questions: What happens if you make a mistake? What happens if mommy makes a mistake? What does Daddy say when you make a mistake? What happens when you spill your drink at the table? These questions might help you realize just how important it is for our children to know we are human and how often we make mistakes ourselves.